First, thanks for publishing my photo @Patheos in Trans Discrimination: From Lunch Counters to Refused Hot Wings
What a Parent Looks Like
I’m posting this here because of the posts it is linked to, written by a father of a transgender boy, and another by his son, about an incident at a wings restaurant where his son was humiliated.
Last Summer a waitress at Buffalo Wild Wings destroyed my sonâ€™s heart and our day together. She denied him the opportunity to order wings. All we intended was to have dinner and see a movie as father and son. What we got was a taste of the worst of society and it felt like a horror movie. Our wings were denied and I had to teach him how to walk away from a situation with dignity. On Wings Denied and Knowing When to Walk Away
I always read the posts that use my photographs, especially those regarding LGBTQ people, including the comments (yes, including the comments). If the situation calls for it because of anti-human behavior, I revoke the license to use the photo. This has happened less than, oh, 6 times. 99% of the time my photos are used to support the human spirit and design society for hope.
In this case, Pat Green, the father engages in the comments in a way that is remarkable. I’ve written here several times that the concept of “never look at the comments” belongs in the 20th Century – many many publications today understand that it’s not what you do, it’s what you tolerate.
What a Leader Looks Like
And then Pat’s son, Dave, wrote a post showing incredible leadership:
Hello all! Iâ€™m Patâ€™s son. My name is Dave. Iâ€™m a trans man (as you all probably know.) Iâ€™ve been socially transitioning for about three years and medically transitioning for about a year.A Trans Teen’s Thoughts on Corporations, Suicide, Allies and Antagonists
His perspective is something that changed my mindset on some things and challenged me. He speaks about corporations, the sarcastic meme posters, well meaning allies, and reminds us what is at stake by speaking of the personal losses he has faced. He even offers real world advice on how to be a stronger ally to the trans community.A Trans Teen’s Thoughts on Corporations, Suicide, Allies and Antagonists
This is a time I am very thankful my photo was published. I got to see what a parent raising a leader looks like.