Unapologetically Proud: Images from Washington, DC, USA

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The nation’s capital is getting ready for its annual Capital Pride (@CapitalPrideDC) celebration. It’s also getting ready for the historic Equality March (@EqualityMarch17), happening the day after the parade.

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#LGBTQ Pride in Washington, DC, where the future is born every day. First time that transgender pride flag is visible, important sign of inclusion. ❤️ DC ️‍🌈#instaDC #DC #EqualityEqualsHealth @capitalpridedc 63245 (View on Flickr.com)

Besides that first, our city can see transgender pride flags alongside rainbow pride flags this year. This is an important recognition of the diversity of our LGBTQ communities.

This weekend will also be the painting of rainbow crosswalks, to include a transgender pride flag.

In this century, As DC goes, so goes the nation.

The photograph at the top of this post is the only one that wasn’t taken this year. It was taken on June 11, 2016, in Washington, DC, the day before 49 human beings were massacred in Orlando for living in their identities. 

Celebrate. And, help the world learn to love better. If you’re not sure how to do that, ask someone who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. We’re here to help you work to be an ally 🙂 .

Enjoy the photos. More will be coming

#WhatAHeroLooks like: 27 Years of DC Black Pride

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I’m so glad I went to the 2017 DC Black Pride Awards Reception last week.

It’s where SaVanna Wanzer was given the 2017 Unsung Hero Award. It’s where I also heard the stories of the other awardees this year. In a world where those who have what they need can say “be lesser, do more,” these are people who are treated as lesser, and do a lot more than those work to act lesser.

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2017.05.23 DC Black Pride, Washington, DC USA 5303 (View on Flickr.com)

I believe I first met SaVanna at Ruby Corado’s wedding – she is also a photographer and we always seek each other out 🙂 .

Ever since then, working with her as a volunteer on the producers group for Capital TransPride (@TransprideDC) has been a highlight of my life in Washington, DC. Some people go places for the music, I go to see the leadership. All of the places I see her lead, I am so impressed at the potential of people to create change and affirm others.

In her remarks at the Awards, SaVanna told us that one of her earliest volunteer activities was standing in line on behalf of those who sought care for HIV infection, because they were unable to, in a health system (@WhitmanWalker) that offered care when other physicians refused to.

I suppose now it could be said that our generation is doing the same for the next generation, so that they can receive care and live long, healthy lives.

There are few photos of us below that I’ve curated. Lots of favorite, 5-star moments, true life pleasures.

In the 20th Century, they used to say that as another State went, so went the nation. In this century, it’s Washington, DC.

SaVanna Wanzer has dedicated the last 25 years of her life to serving the transgender community with Whitman-Walker Health. She was the first transgender African-American woman to be named as a member of its board of directors; serving for nine years. During the early years, she was instrumental in ensuring the transgender community received medical services for HIV care and hormone therapy at the Whitman-Walker Health transgender care clinic”. She regularly volunteered at the food bank and prepared an annual Thanksgiving Dinner for seven years for clients that had no family or loved ones with whom to celebrate. She continues to volunteer her time at the Name and Gender Legal Clinic at Whitman-Walker Health that brings her so much joy in life.SaVanna Wanzer, Unsung Hero, DC Black Pride

A walk down the street to make today matter, National Center for Transgender Equality Gala, Washington, DC USA

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2017.05.25 National Center for Transgender Equality Gala, Washington, DC USA 5451 (View on Flickr.com)
In Washington, DC, you can walk down the street to make today matter. It’s why we came here.

Why I came here, to the National Center for Transgender Equality (@TransEquality) gala is to see transformational leadership of the kind I don’t see in many other parts of society. I also came to thank all of the people who work to protect me every day and to learn what I can do to make this day matter, too. Allies need allies.

Speaking of transformational leadership, it was a delight to see Gavin Grimm (@GavinGrimmVA) honored with the Andrew Cray award for his leadership. I still don’t quite understand why educators in Virginia are spending time working to humiliate him and other students as opposed to educating them. The combined medical and nursing professions don’t understand this either, and we shouldn’t, we’re entrusted to bring science-based healing to the world 🙂 .

In the last century, they used to say another that for another State, so went the nation. In This Century, As Washington, DC Goes, So Goes the Nation

Because they never worked for their freedom, their travel experiences have no personal reference— no connection to the rest of their lives. Talk to them, and they’ll tell you they’re searching for something “meaningful.” What they’re really looking for, however, is the reason why they started traveling in the first place.

Ferriss, Timothy (2016-12-06). Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers (p. 366). Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Kindle Edition.

Most people forget that innovation (and investing in innovation) is a business of exceptions.

Ferriss, Timothy (2016-12-06). Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers (p. 360). Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Kindle Edition.

Photos below – click here to see on flickr.com

Thoughts on Working to Be an Ally in 2017, from Washington, DC

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2017.05.09 LGBTQ Communities Dialogue and Capital Pride Board Meeting Washington DC USA 4560 (View on Flickr.com)

A few evenings ago evening I attended a public dialogue with the LGBTQ communities of Washington, DC and the Capital Pride Alliance (@CapitalPrideDC) organization. I was present as a member of the producer team for Capital Transpride (@TransPrideDC).

The conversation reminded me of the emotions present after the horrific massacre of 49 human beings in Orlando last year. I wrote about working to be an ally then: (Photo Friday: This doctor is here for you during LGBTQ pride, and for your long, healthy life).

I came to Washington, DC and found out I wanted to work to be a better ally. When my generation of physicians needed them, they (allies) were few and far between….

I met Jen McCoy a few weeks ago, in an almost rushed conversation, when she approached me to ask about transgender person care. Following our conversation I received this message from her, which she’s given me permission to repost here.

Hi Dr. Eytan,

We spoke for a couple minutes in March at ACHP about health care for the transgender population and you handed me your card with your pronouns on it. That was a changing point for me and I want to let you know.

When I returned, I began attending a transgender support group as an ally, ear and liaison for my health care company. To me, it all boiled down to this: the community members are living their authentic lives and 99% of the population doesn’t live their truth for whatever reason (I think it’s fear). As a result, I’ve made friends and also feel very committed to ensuring safe, accessible, affordable health care (as does my company).

This week, I received an email from a woman in the support group who said it’s important to have cisgender allies. I’ve gained so much from attending, including the cathartic share of my friend’s suicide, who was gay and bullied. I’ve carried guilt about not saving him for years, attend therapy for more than a decade, and once I told the group–a weight was finally lifted. They cried with me. I got a group hug. It was incredible.

This morning, I was reading the Huffington Post and saw a photo gallery of a dance party outside Ivanka Trump’s place. When I saw the name of the photographer, I wondered if it was you and as you know, it is! I found you on Instagram and just had to email you to let you know that YOU made a BIG difference. Thank you for taking the time to talk with me; thank you for being approachable and accessible; thank you for being an incredible advocate in health care.

I almost didn’t attend the conference because of anxiety, but if I would’ve let fear stop me then I would’ve never ran into you; probably would’ve been too timid to attend a support group; never would’ve made the connections and friendships; and wouldn’t have you as a resource for our company. I learned this morning that I should step into the fear. Full circle, huge learning moment on my part.

Again, thank you. Please never underestimate your interactions because they create positive change. I hope you know it and embrace it.

Jen McCoy

I believe that we’ve discovered that our generation does have the power to change everything, and the world, ultimately, is learning to love better.

Everyone deserves to be safe, and to live a long, healthy life. It’s why we’re here.

Thanks for using my photos: Hundreds Of LGBTQ People Held A Dance Party Protest via The Huffington Post

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2017.04.01 Queer Dance Party – Ivanka Trump’s House – Washington, DC USA 02058 (View on Flickr.com)
We’re all here for health and Love always wins 🙂 .

“Come dance!”

Source: Hundreds Of LGBTQ People Held A Dance Party Protest Outside Ivanka Trump’s Home | The Huffington Post – via @HuffingtonPost & @JMN

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“A Rainbow Can Only Exist Where there is LIGHT” 2016.06.13 From DC to Orlando Vigils 06073 (View on Flickr.com)

I’m mostly putting this here for the record.

Werk for Peace (@WerkForPeace) was born out of the massacre of 49 people who were killed while being human.

At the same time, because this is a blog about what I learned yesterday, I’m reflecting on similar actions in our nation’s capital in 2008 that I was at:

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Washington DC Demonstration for Equality November 15 2008 15664 (View on Flickr.com)
What I learned is that LGBTQ communities have become healthier, more able to control its destiny, and in an intersectional, non-binary way, in 10 years.

And why wouldn’t they?

Resilient people and companies face reality with staunchness, make meaning of hardship instead of crying out in despair, and improvise solutions from thin air. Others do not. This is the nature of resilience, and we will never completely understand it. – Coutu DL. How resilience works. Harv. Bus. Rev. 2002;80(5):46.

Additional 2017 photos below, see for yourself. All @CreativeCommons licensed, as usual.

2017 Enterprising Women, Washington, DC USA

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With 2017 Enterprising woman Bianca Rey – 2017.03.21 Tagg Magazine 2017 Enterprising Women, Washington, DC USA 3904 (View on Flickr.com)

Tagg Magazine’s (@TaggMagazine) 2017 Enterprising Women, including Bianca Rey (@BiancaRey), Executive Producer of Capital TransPride.

This will be my 5th Capital TransPride (@TransprideDC), run by a fantastic team, in an even more awesome venue in 2017, Washington, DC’s legendary Studio Theatre (@Studio_Theatre)

Equality is the future. And the future tends to be born here. Washington, DC USA

Additional photos below.

Tagg Magazine's (@TaggMagazine) <a href="https://taggmagazine.com/features/2017-enterprising-women/">2017 Enterprising Women</a>, including Bianca Rey (@BiancaRey), Executive Producer of Capital TransPride. #theta360 – Spherical Image – RICOH THETA

Photo Friday: #ProtectTransKids Washington, DC USA

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I’m 100% sure I was watching history when I took this photograph, outside of the White House, in Washington, DC (of course).

It features the leaders of the health issue of our time – equal opportunity to exist in society for people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, and in this case transgender.

Leaders present included Chad Griffin (@ChadHGriffin) Mara Keisling (@MaraKeisling) Raffi Freedman-Gurspan and Gavin Grimm (@GavinGrimmVA) + parents, families, doctors, lawyers, nurses, therapists + many community colleagues in the capital of a world learning to love better.

Rest of the series is below. Thanks to the dozen plus professional medical organizations who we now know were there with us, too.

It’s a fact – Equality Equals Health.

Just Read: Moral Self-Licensing – a continual challenge to eliminating bias in health care

Earlier in my career, I remember a colleague saying to me, in a challenge to observed, biased behavior, “this is organization x, those things don’t happen here.” He said it with a dismissive chuckle. And yet, it did happen…

I have been intensely interested in the concept of “Illusion of Objectivity” especially in health care, and so have done a deep literature review. It brought me to several helpful papers and the concept of moral self-license (Merritt AC, Effron DA, Monin B. Moral Self-Licensing: When Being Good Frees Us to Be Bad. Soc Personal Psychol Compass [Internet]. Blackwell Publishing Ltd; 2010 May [cited 2016 Aug 13];4(5):344–57).

One of the authors, Daniel Effron now at London Business School (@lbs), has written another piece more recently which I’ll post on next.

It’s yet-another-place where the professions outside of medicine can teach us a lot, and why shouldn’t they, we need each other, and our patients need us to perform our best for them.

Moral Self-License, a fascinating concept that shapes our actions

When under the threat that their next action might be (or appear to be) morally dubious, individuals can derive confidence from their past moral behavior, such that an impeccable track record increases their propensity to engage in otherwise suspect actions. Such moral self-licensing (Monin & Miller, 2001) occurs when past moral behavior makes people more likely to do poten- tially immoral things without worrying about feeling or appearing immoral.

Several study situations of note (summarized here, you can review for control situations, etc):

  • When people expressed support for a Black presidential candidate (Barack Obama), they were more likely to subsequently express bias toward less-qualified White candidates for a police job.
  • People asked to describe a time in their past when they acted immorally were more likely to endorse prosocial activities such as giving to charities.
  • The converse situation, people describing a moral act in the past were more likely to cheat on a math task

So there is something about doing (or even thinking) about past behavior that causes people to engage in less-than-virtuous behavior or to minimize the less-than-virtuousness of the behavior.

What does this mean for health care?

A lot.

There is much public controversy presently around institutions and people who express commitment to an unbiased environment, and yet biased environments persist.

Interestingly, further research shows that there is greater sensitivity to what is seen as hypocrisy by people in the affected, targeted groups, which makes sense. The converse, however, is that people who are not in the targeted groups are less likely to see hypocrisy and license biased behavior, which allows it to persist. This is a difficult problem if the actors and the licensors are all part of the same ingroup – there will be less introspection.

Here’s a reason why this is important

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Explicit and implicit attitudes among medical students 54443 (View on Flickr.com)

Because, today, medical students feel comfortable explicitly stating bias against lesbian and gay individuals (and even more bias against obese individuals), an atmosphere of moral license (“we don’t do that here, our policies say so”) can allow this to continue.

Note that because of the concept of impression management, students (and physicians, other research) are much less likely to openly state bias toward African American individuals, even though their behavior may reflect it (see: Just Read: Eliminating physician biases against gay and lesbian people, don’t forget the “T” ) .

Who I am vs What I do

There appears to be a protective effect in the understanding of a person’s commitment (who they are and what they stand for) versus what they do (progress toward a goal). Labeling is tied into this:

several studies have found that labeling people as ‘‘helpful’’ after they agree to a small request increases their likelihood of acting consistently by agreeing to a subsequent, large request

Value of Listening, Introspection

There are a few more papers that I’m going to summarize here, because this is such a fascinating topic, and frankly, a head scratcher for people in vulnerable groups who observe repeated, biased behavior in people who otherwise are committed to being bias free.

The reconciliation of all of this is that we are all human, and the “this doesn’t happen here” turns out to be one of the most dangerous statements that can ever be made.

As I reflect on some of the most impressive leaders and concepts I have seen/heard, they involve listening better (“Just Read: Just 6 more seconds of listening needed to elicit the patient’s agenda“) and understanding that improvement is always possible (“There’s Always Something to Do Better” – Medical College of Georgia, home of patient and family centered care). In the latter concept, just think about the statements from people who say they always want to get better and how compelling they (and the people behind them) are.

Working to be an Ally

Right now, I think one of the most topic areas for this exploration is the work of being an ally, to a group of people that is not your own. This is a space where the research points to a great risk of moral license (because the actor and the target are not in the same ingroup), and where, consistency is needed the most for the persons an ally is working to support.

Maybe good advice here is to be introspective about actions, query those who you are working to be an ally for about actions, and listen to their answer. Otherwise, a person may be inadvertently licensing themselves to do things they will not notice are unhelpful, and later regret. It’s what all humans do, therefore, work with other humans to mitigate this risk :).

This is still one of my favorite quotes (from: Not using the term “Transgendered” and respecting people) :

**Don’t get defensive**

If you get defensive, notice it and accept the discomfort of unlearning and relearning

This requires a desire to know, motivation to become informed, willingness to correct mistakes

Photo Friday: About the Future, It Arrived

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Celebrating the people who volunteered to make Capital Pride (@CapitalPrideDC) in the nation’s capital a huge success this year. That includes Capital TransPride of course (@TransPrideDC).

Thanks to Kaiser Permanente Mid-Atlantic States (@KPMidAtlantic) for being a platinum sponsor of both events.

Washington, DC is not just the nation’s capital. It’s the capital of a world learning to love better. It’s why we’re here.

With ❤️, from the future, which is as awesome as I thought it would be. #EqualityEqualsHealth capitalpridedc capitaltranspride
With ❤️, from the future, which is as awesome as I thought it would be. #EqualityEqualsHealth @capitalpridedc @capitaltranspride (View on Flickr.com)

Notes from the nation’s capital, where love won

In my intersectionality as a family physician, a patient (we are all patients), member of and advocate for the LGBTQ community, ally, Washington, DC resident (all of these in no particular order), here are a few points from Washington, DC.

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Love won this weekend

DC Capital Pride (@CapitalPrideDC) was held on schedule, safely, and with all humans respected and represented. The organizers did an excellent job. I am proud that Kaiser Permanente Mid-Atlantic States (@KPMidAtlantic) was visible as a platinum sponsor for Capital Pride as well as Capital TransPride (@TransPrideDC).

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The world is learning to love better

There was a time, I have been told, when Washington, DC’s first night clubs to allow same-sex dancing began to thrive because the police simply couldn’t arrest people fast enough. In 2016, the President of the United States acknowledged their central place as spaces of refuge, empowerment, and connection to community.

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There was also a time when a transgender woman would be arrested for using the restroom aligned with her gender. In 2016, the security guard who accosted a transgender woman using the aligned restroom was arrested, by a police officer who is herself transgender (the excellent Sergeant Jessica Hawkins).

In my medical professional world, just 3 years ago a transgender woman would be told that her health needs wouldn’t be met and she would just have to live or die in her identity. Now, a transgender woman I know (of several) is being asked to teach the health system, not about being transgender, about leadership and innovation. And she’s getting medically supervised, evidence-based care 😃 .

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The 20th Century was a long time ago; it’s not coming back

I regularly encounter people who are of the mind/attitude/behavior, explicitly endorsed or not, that we are still living in the 20th Century. It’s impressive to me that people still cling to that notion, but then again one need not go far to see that we’re living in a new century.

Washington, DC is really at the vanguard of living in a new millennium. It’s the most protective in policy of LGBTQ humans in the United States. More protective than California. Whenever I leave the district, I have to do a double take every time I see a gender segregated single-stall restroom.

If you want to study resilience, study the LGBTQ community

The LGBTQ community understands resilience. The drive to live as one’s true self is among the most powerful in human existence – so powerful that when denied it can overcome a person’s will to live. And also so powerful to create the most effective social movements of our time. I recall being at a White House Champions for Change event around environmental stewardship when a panelist said to the audience, “If you want to see effective organizing, look to the LGBTQ community.” And he was right.

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Jerome Pohlen said it best in the children’s book he wrote (Thanks for publishing my photo, in this lovely book: Gay & Lesbian History for Kids, by Jerome Pohlen):

First, the LGBT community has never given up on a struggle, even if it took decades to achieve. And second, in the end, they always win.

That’s because love always wins.

A few suggestions

Look 3 feet away from you as well as 3000 miles away from you

What is your environment like? Are people enabled to live as their authentic selves? Are people targeted for assisting others or advocating for equality?

Targeting happens in various ways, sometimes explicit, sometimes more insidious.

The most dangerous environments are the ones where people say, “That doesn’t happen here.” If people think it doesn’t happen, start a conversation about what’s happening, because it’s happening. The science demonstrates the more objective people believe they are, the more biased they behave.

I have seen and experienced all forms of the above. It’s humbling, it’s terrifying, it’s empowering.

One pleasant discovery I have found is that by a factor of about 1:1000, the person who I least expected to be curious about this community and their health wiped away so much animus from so many others with a simple expression of kindness.

I felt it this weekend from the texts, notes, tweets I received from people. It really is amazing what one person can do to help another.

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Look inside yourself

We’re all human and have biases that are sometimes explicit and sometimes hidden within our unconscious, that affect our behavior. You deserve to know about these biases so they can be modulated.

Test yourself at Project Implicit. There’s a gay-straight implicit bias test. I’ve shared my results on this blog.

The results show that indeed I am human.

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Those are my notes from Washington, DC. Enjoy the photographs, questions, comments in the comments (of course).

Our generation of physicians came to health care with a dream that we’d be able to change everything so that every human could achieve their life goals. It’s totally happening, and we have a ton of allies joining us in the future. 

And, we won’t be stopped. 

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