Thanks for using my photo in, If You Want to be a Trans Ally, Declare Your Pronouns

Trans Solidarity Rally and March 55401
Trans Solidarity Rally and March 55401 – All Genders Matter (View on

Thanks for using my photo in this post written by @DaveandTino and I think this is a good analysis. I personally don’t relate to the comments surrounding religion, but I could see how another individual would benefit from those passages.

Transphobia has long been prevalent in the gay community—especially in the gay male community. The uncomfortable truth is that most cisgender gay men are at least at some level insecure in their masculinity. We don’t mean in the sense that we ourselves doubt it, but in the sense that we have grown up hearing from others that being attracted to the same sex makes you less of a man.

As I’ve mentioned before, declaring my pronouns happens every time I send an email or give someone my business card. I like to be built for the future 🙂 .

We’re cisgender men. The pronouns we want people to use when referring to either of us are he, him, and his. Why does this matter, and what does it even mean? Being cisgender means that we […]

Source: If You Want to be a Trans Ally, Declare Your Pronouns


This is just breathtaking. So new, so …. empowered!

One of the first things I said in my TED Talk was ad-libbed – about how the previous patient speakers had said “I’ll decide.”

So amazing – there’s been this silent discomfort or uncertainty about “What terms does s/he want me to use,” exactly parallel to when women starting using Ms. as well as Miss and Mrs.: “Which does she want me to use?? I hope I don’t screw up.”

Seems to me that real empowerment includes enough consciousness raising to recognize this challenge, put a finger on it, and provide the answer. Thanks for being the canonical specimen! 🙂


I like that designation- “canonical specimen” – maybe I’ll put that on my calling card too 😀

Ted Eytan, MD